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i should know better, but i took some jealousy tests(i admit that i have jealousy issues; seeing a test tell me how bad they were freaked me some at first). however, i'm surprised by (some) of the results
The Jealousy Test by Queendom.dot.com results:
Your Score: 50 (dead medium)
While you're certainly not immune to the occasional twinge of jealousy, you are generally able to balance envious feelings with a calm and logical attitude. When you feel an attack of the green-eyed monster coming on, you try to calm down and take an honest look at your feelings. If it's a small thing, like your girlfriend/boyfriend innocently chatting to an attractive stranger at a party, you are generally able to let it go - or at least restrain from blowing it out of proportion. If you decide you have legitimate reasons to be envious, you would likely express it; this is where things can go wrong if not handled with the utmost finesse. Do you verbally attack the "guilty party" or make harsh accusations before knowing the whole story? Jealousy is a natural emotion, but can become poison in any relationship. As long as you try to keep your slightly jealous nature in check, it shouldn't do any damage.
keep in mind that above test is regarding jealousy on a whole.
This relationship jealousy test, on the other hand...
General Index Score=48
Most people who are involved in an important relationship carry a certain amount of fear and feel threatened by the possibility of being displaced and losing a partner to someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. Very few people display a blatant lack of jealousy. That is certainly not your case. You appear to be a person in whom jealousy can be evoked very easily and who tends to live in a permanent state of fear of losing the loved one, conscious or subconscious. You seem to perceive the possibility of losing your partner to someone else as very threatening. This might put a strain on your relationship, especially if your partner is not willing to play along. Some work on your self-esteem, social and communication skills could help you to feel stronger, more secure, and more independent. In turn, this would help you realize that if you ever lost your mate to someone else, you would (or could) survive with your self-esteem intact, with your head up and with dignity. You would find out that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only compatible creature on earth, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else. Such feelings would give you a sense of security and the strength to trust, and would allow you to be more comfortable in the relationship. That, in turn, would boost the chances of a lasting and fulfilling relationship. See the sub-scores below for a more detailed analysis.
Jealousy and Your Emotions/Thinking Patterns Score=64
You appear to be suffering somewhat at both an emotional and cognitive level. According to your test score, you are generally pessimistic when it comes to trusting your partner. in fact, you generally mistrust him/her and feel threatened when s/he interacts with anybody who might even remotely qualify as a potential mate. You are especially jealous, of course, when s/he interacts with someone s/he might find attractive. You get worked up over minor things and, as a consequence, you get easily hurt.
Building up your level of trust would enable you to feel more secure and in control. You could avoid feeling anxious, hurt and betrayed because of things that do not warrant such strong emotions. This would result in a much stronger, healthier relationship both for you and your partner.
Jealous Behavior Score=27
You sometimes do the right thing in situations that provoke your jealousy, but often you do not. You are quite jealous and it shows. It is true that sometimes a little bit of jealousy can put a spark into a relationship. However, it is a dangerous weapon that might easily be used against you. As such, you had better keep it under control.
From the viewpoint of a partner, jealousy is generally very unbecoming. More often than not, it can spoil the relationship to the point of a breakup. Ironically, jealousy, which originates in the fear of losing your mate, might result in exactly that.
It is certainly hard to behave as a perfect gentleman/lady when you are burning inside. However, the pain will eventually subside if you decide to work on it. You can learn to control jealous behavior through detecting the first signs and making a conscious decision not to take the shortcut to your regular pattern. With some training, you will be able to recognize and block the behavior before it starts. However, that alone will not do it. You need to address the underlying insecurity, which most likely comes from a low self-esteem. When you stop feeling and behaving as if your mate was doing you a favor by being with you, you will grow - in your own eyes, and your partner's probably too. If your mate thrives on your jealousy, then it is a pretty safe guess that s/he has a problem that needs to be addressed and that your relationship has an unhealthy element.
Irrational Jealousy Score=48
You get very upset in relatively innocent circumstances, and many harmless situations have an unnecessarily disturbing effect on you. Try to be more rational. If you have troubles distinguishing innocence from potential betrayal, try to imagine yourself in the shoes of your friend. Many situations won't appear as threatening when you are not the one involved. Then, try to keep that perspective when you reassess the situation. If it does not help, consider getting help from a qualified psychologist. You can get rid of these feelings, and I can assure you that it will pay off in terms of the improvement of your love life.
Dependency Issues Score=69
You appear to have some serious dependence problems, and if you do not already struggle with them, you should. You would feel better if you saw yourself as an individual separate from your partner and if you did not depend solely on her/him for gratification of all your needs. I would recommend that you work on it intensively and possibly consider getting some professional help.
Self-Esteem Issues Score=73
You definitely have very poor self-esteem. If you are jealous, then chances are that low self-esteem plays a major role in it. If your jealous behavior score is low, it might be that you do not consider yourself worthy of your mate's love and you secretly suffer in your little corner. Either way, it is not good for your emotional health and well-being. Do something about it! You ARE worth it!
Control Issues Statements=4
You appear to display controlling behavior to some degree. You might be controlling in different ways: by limiting your partner from a position of strength (physical or psychological) or from a position of weakness in a passive aggressive way. In your case, the problem is not extremely serious, but it can be resented by your partner anyway. You should take a critical look at yourself and do something about it.
FUNFUNFUN. i'll only give validity to what i want to give validity to. ;p
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