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| Monday, September 6th, 2004 | |
| 1:14 am [spankenstein74] |
New Austin Fetish Movie Company hi everyone, my girlfriend and i are starting a new fetish movie company in austin, texas. we're looking for people to work with both in front of the camera and behind the scenes. if you'd like to be in a movie or have any fimmaking skills, please get in touch with us at aquariusfwinc@aol.com. thanks, jeff |
| Tuesday, August 31st, 2004 | |
| 1:30 pm [daddysslut] |
hi everyone... i just joined this community and wanted to say hello! i am into age play and my Daddy spanks me often...even if i don't deserve it...but i usually do ;-) so anyway, just a short little intro! Current Mood:  chipper |
| Sunday, August 22nd, 2004 | |
| 12:34 am [tsgoddess] |
I'm New Hey all. I just joined. My husband is really into spanking, and since I have jealousy issues he just stopped going to spanking chat, so I figured I'd join to see if I can get ideas on how to make spanking play fun for us r/l. Current Mood:  curious |
| Wednesday, March 17th, 2004 | |
| 3:01 pm [nycfetphoto] |
In UK April and May Am back in the UK and will be continuing projects staring second week of April through May. If anyone is interested in being a part of them contact me at: swav@swavjusis.com I will also be helping any new models to work on their portfolios in exchange for modelling time.  Current Mood: artistic |
| Wednesday, March 3rd, 2004 | |
| 3:24 pm [the_pretty_girl] |
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| Tuesday, February 24th, 2004 | |
| 6:34 pm [starchyld] |
Research Hey everyone! I'm doing a research paper on BDSM for a sociology class... I was wondering if anyone can give me pointers for good places to find academic work on any aspect of BDSM. |
| Saturday, February 21st, 2004 | |
| 5:47 pm [xslimchris] |
ok |
| 5:15 pm [xslimchris] |
It's got to be........ perfect |
| Monday, February 16th, 2004 | |
| 1:10 pm [i_need_release] |
:: spanking instruments :: here is a list of everything we own that i get spanked with: wooden paddle leather riding crop metal hanger (stretched out so its like a thin cane) plastic hairbrush wooden ruler wooden spoon spatula leather belt electrical cord jump rope (actual rope) bungee cord (3" thick rubber) *hand* and other fun stuff: lube flavored massage oil metal handcuffs small butt plug big vibrator bigger jelly vibrator! gag blinfold rope Current Mood: hornyCurrent Music: r.e.m. :: everybody hurts |
| Tuesday, February 10th, 2004 | |
| 3:19 pm [i_need_release] |
:: new community :: hey everyone! please forgive the x-post. i just started a new community for portlanders and bdsm-ers? anyway, please check it out. =) ![[info]](http://library.vu.edu.pk/cgi-bin/nph-proxy.cgi/000100A/http/web.archive.org/web/20041118234327im_/http:/=2fstat.livejournal.com/img/community.gif){kind=small} portland_bdsm |
| 12:31 pm [i_need_release] |
:: scene :: he came up with this scene for us to do. we've never done that before because i always feel a little silly "acting" out a scene. it feels really fake to me for some reason. but i never refuse to do something he wants. teehee. it was his idea for me to be a high school girl who was just about to light a cigarette when her dad comes home and catches her, then gives her a spanking for it. he said, he best thing about this scene is he gets to be the "father" which (he says) represents authority, and the girl was doing something bad which she needs to be punished for. he says the biggest turn on for a spanking is giving it to someone who deserves it. so he was out in the living room watching tv. i had just taken a shower and shaved all but a little (usually i just shave my pussy bare, but he complained about it last time so i left just a little bit). i put on a pair of sheer string bikini panties, these really short red shorts (they look like boxers) and a white polo shirt that i unbuttoned all the way down to my bra. i threw my bathrobe over all of this and came out to the living room. i asked him, "do you need to go outside for anything?" he said yes once he caught on to what i was trying to do, but made me wait in another room while he prepped our room. i heard the door close and knew i could come out. i took my pack of cigarettes to the living room and sat on the couch. just as i was about to light one, my dad walked in! he was home from work, early! quickly i threw the unlit cigarette on the coffee table, but he had already seen it. "what are you doing?" he asked me in his deep, angry voice. trying to play innocent, i said, quietly, "nothing..." and hung my head. "are those cigarettes?" he asked, outraged. still looking at the ground i said, "yes..." "i cant believe this. i work hard all day and i have to come home to this: my own daughter, smoking. 10 seconds later and it would have been lit. well, what do you have to say for yourself?" "i'm sorry." "sorry's not good enough. i'm going to have to teach you a real lesson so you wont forget next time. what did i say i would do if i ever caught you smoking?" "give me a spanking." "thats right. get in here," he said, grabbing my arm firmly and dragging me behind him into the bedroom. in the bedroom he demanded me to take my bathrobe off, and i did. i stood there in my revealing outfit as he sat on the bed and commanded me to get over his lap. i quickly obeyed. i knew i had a bad spanking coming, i didnt want to make it worse by taking too long to do what he wanted. he told me to pull down my shorts and panties. "youre going to get a hairbrush spanking on your bare ass," he told me. i grimaced, but held still as long as i could. first was the hairbrush. the one we have for spanking is a big flat one with a square back. its plastic, and one of the more painful things he spanks me with. he warmed me up with the hairbrush, then lectured me for a minute. then he used the ruler. usually the ruler dosnt hurt that bad, but he loves the ruler so he tends to get carried away with it. the ruler spankings hurt a lot because my ass was already rosy from the hairbrush, and more sensitive. i begged him to stop. "are you going to stop smoking?" "yes daddy, i wont smoke anymore, i promise!!" "you can promise all you want, it wont do you any good now," he said, and it made me so hot. he kept spankling me, and i thought i might pass out, it hurt so bad. the thing i love about spankings though, is the pain. the pain isnt ordinary pain. its exquisite. the pain is better somehow, its hard to describe. he used a few other things on me but honestly i dont know what they were. all i could feel was the pain. i scremed, i pleaded with daddy to stop, but he wouldnt. i squirmed around, but he wouldnt stop. finally i thought, maybe he's waiting for me to stop moving and just take it? so i gathered the rest of my willpower that i had left and planted myself right there and resolved not to budge. but that wasnt what he want waiting for. i could feel the heat off my cheeks, but still he continued.... i couldnt tell you when he stopped, but it was amazing. he stopped being my "dad" and told me how amazing i was to take that spanking, and then he fucked me in the ass like a bitch. i came so hard on his dick, so many times.... it was great. (x-posted, please forgive me, or else spank me for misbehaving Current Mood: sexy Current Music: 50 cent: in da club |
| Monday, February 9th, 2004 | |
| 8:37 pm [mistressquinn] |
Spanking and feminism I would like to write a story on spanking and feminism for a spanking anthology. I've known about this anthology for months now, but have only just decided to get my tush into gear on actually composing something for it. I'd like to hear your thoughts on this topic - anyone, anyone at all. Some things to consider: Do you believe you can be a feminist and a bottom? How do you tie feminism to spanking? Are they even related? How would you defend your spanking needs to feminists, if criticsed, or vice-versa? Do you think there's a difference in the way it relates to feminism between M/f and F/f or F/m spanking? Anything else you can think of? |
| Monday, January 12th, 2004 | |
| 12:30 am [i_need_release] |
:: aftercare :: i forget who (i'm very sorry!), but someone here on lj asked me if i knew about "after care" (after getting a spanking). she gave me a link, to a bdsm website, but i cant seem to find link she was referring to... does anyone know what "after care" is, and what it entails? i would much appriciate any advice/help anyone out there has to offer me. links would be great too. sorry but i'm really clueless about the whole thing, i'm relitively unexperienced in the spanking arena, compared to most, i've only been getting spanked for about 2 years now, and dont talk to anyone in my "real life" about it, all my research has been web-based, and you know how reliable that can be! thank you all for your help, in advance! =) |
| Sunday, January 4th, 2004 | |
| 12:04 pm [i_need_release] |
:: E :: when i was on e that night, i was sooo bad. i was such a naughty, dirty little slut, and i couldnt believe my own ears at the things i said. first, when we were at the club, i asked him if he wanted to rent a porno that night, and he said we could. when we left the club, the place we went to was closed (it was about 2 am). damn. i suggested, we could just watch some of his videos he has at home? he said ok. in the car he started telling me that tonight probably would have been a really good night for a threesome, i seemed like i would have been into it. i was disappointed he disnt ask one of the girls at the club to come home with us, but it was too late by then. i said, i would have loved to get a girl to come home with us. i asked him to tell me, in great detail, what he would do to us, what we would do, etc. and he told me. i unzipped his pants and started going down on his while he was driving still. to my disappointment, my mouth was all dry from the e so i couldnt give him head well at all. we got home and i was still trippin out. i took a quick shower, and told him to set everything up so we'd be ready when i got out. when i got out of the shower, i didnt bother to get dressed, but i brought the towel to keep we warm. he sat me over his lap and turned on the first video: spanking. he told me about what was going on in the movie in a soft, low, sexy voice. since i was rolling really hard, i couldnt quite have a coherent thought. when the girl in the video started getting a spanking, he started spanking me too. hard. he even had a hairbrush and a wooden spoon with him. we watched that for 10 or 15 minutes... then he turned on another. this was just regular porn. it was this blonde girl in a swing getting fucked, and there were all these other girls around her just watching. that was weird. thats when he got behind me and put his big cock in my ass. he fucked me in the ass for 45 minutes! oh it felt good. i never had the courage to tell him sober, but i knew he always wanted to know what me and "star" did together. "star" and i worked together a few years ago, and we were really good friends. one night after work, we went to her friends house, who happened to be a real drug dealer! he gave us each a pill of e, and then we drank a bit, and then had a threesome. "star" and i also did somethings. anyway, i knew he always wanted to 2know details of what we did, but i could never tell him. but that night, rolling, as he was fucking me, i told him. and it was so hot. i got off on a lot of unusual things that night; things that dont usually turn me on. but it was great. oh, it will go down in my memory forever. |
| Friday, January 2nd, 2004 | |
| 6:20 am [tobeaslave] |
Eep, introduction. I'm new and kind of ignorant, but joining as many communities as I can sink my claws into to try and learn as much as possible. I'm used to lurking quietly, so please forgive my bland intro. : ) Howdy! (Sorry, x-posted due to lack of creativity ^__^) Current Mood:  nervous |
| Tuesday, December 23rd, 2003 | |
| 10:41 am [spoiled_beauty] |
X-Posted to other communities.. I decided that there should be more BDSM related communities that allow people of all ages to join.. Considering I don't have much experience in the BDSM world, I can understand other Livejournal users' frustration, but I can't really provide much in the community when it comes to information, except what I can find on the net and from others. I'm hoping that, by x-posting this to various BDSM communities (and others), I can get some people to join.. And hopefully some who are a bit more experienced than I am.. After all the purpose of me creating the community was to inform people (and myself!:P). I guess that's enough info, or too much.. So yea.. The community is [Unknown LJ tag] If anyone would check it out, that'd be great!! =) Current Mood: accomplished |
| Monday, December 22nd, 2003 | |
| 5:48 pm [i_need_release] |
what would be a good thing to get someone who likes spanking? something to spank me with of course, the only trouble would be finding something that we dont already have. any ideas? thanks! |
| Friday, December 19th, 2003 | |
| 1:12 am [i_need_release] |
:: spank a thon :: hi, i'm new here and thought i'd, eh, introduce myself. hope you like it...: last night when he came home, somehow i got into a position that the only was out of it was a spanking. (yippee!) he brought out this paddle that he uses on me. i looked at it, grabbed it, and said, "this is too soft," and proceeded to rip the foam off one side, revealing a thin wooden paddle. oooh, loud, and fucking painful too!! jeez, what a great idea. i'm a genious when it comes to getting spanked. it was great because, he couldnt resist spanking with it either. we both got what we wanted. a very serious spanking, yet fun. my ass what red for hours. |
| Saturday, December 6th, 2003 | |
| 4:58 pm [spoiled_beauty] |
Hey.. I've been sort of watching this community for awhile, and I figured it was time to join. My name is Amber, and I'm 16 years old. I know I'm kind of young, but I've been interested in BDSM for quite awhile, and now that I know one of my friends is very much into it.. Well, I guess you could say I'm starting to act on my curiousity. The guy in question makes me be sub, and I actually enjoy that.. I've only done shit with him like once before, no sex, but I want to continue doing it.. Just being tied up, gaged, etc. It's not that we're dating or anything, he's just a very good friend, and I trust him. I was wondering if anyone could give me any advice on BDSM in general. He knows I've never actually participated in it before him, but if we do anything again, I don't want to look like I know absolutely nothing about the lifestyle.. I didn't mean to make this post so long, but I'm kind of nervous. :) I'm really eager to please him, I guess you could say, because I really care about him.. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. (Sorry, but I might be x posting this to a couple other communities.. There's so few that don't have an age limit in their info!!!) Current Mood: curiousCurrent Music: NIN - Closer |
| Monday, November 10th, 2003 | |
| 12:17 pm [sad_pleasure] |
lovely red marks ummmm,WOW. that's my take on last night. i was the first time i have really, really been spanked. (previously it had all been smacks on the ass while engaged in intercourse) this is how it went down: he has this knife. no, we didn't do knife play let me finish . . . . he's in the marine reserves, he has this marine issued fighting knife. it's called a K-bar. the blade is pretty big - 7 in. and it comes in a leather sheath. (you can see the knife and sheath here.) do you see where i'm going with this? he spanked me with it. hard. (yes the knife was in the sheath so steel was the force behind the swings) although next time i have no doubt it will be harder. he covered my ass thoroughly, and my very upper thighs. i was squirming, yelping, trying to muffle my cries with the pillow. when i couldn't take it any longer my hands flew back to cover my ass. he put the knife down, removed my hands, lifted my waist and ass up in the air and then took me very forceably from behind. did i tell you this was all taking place on the floor? on a rug - on the wood floors, in between the fireplace and the coffee table and couch. if i slipped a little, let my ass drop to much he would very sternly reminded me, "you DON'T want me to spank you again." it happened a couple times though. so he picked up the knife and started hitting my thighs while he was still in me. he commented how lovely the red marks were. he came hard inside me. he told me, "you're going to have to sleep on your stomach tonight." he was right. sitting here writing about it i can still feel the sting. while sleeping we definitely cling to each other, legs and arms intertwined. so waking up this morning we both tossed and turned a bit, starting to stir and we were rubbing each other in all the right places. it's a sleepy, slow foreplay. he made me climb on top of him and pushed into me so swift and hard. it took my breath away for a minute. then he turned us so we were side by side. we've been talking a lot about having a 3sum lately, and there is one girl in particular that we would like to do it with, yet i haven't seemed to convince her yet. let's call her *L*. (i don't know if she wants to be identified or not) anyways, as we are side by side he asked me what i would do if we were just like this with L, and she was squatting over me, over my face. so i try very hard to imagine her over me and how i would be licking her, fucking her with my tongue. then he asked, what would it taste like if i had cum into her earlier and you were licking her? and he guided me to reached down between us and he pulled 1/2 way out of me and told me to get a big scoop and taste it. so i fondled him as he was slightly moving in and out of me, and scooped up a finger full of myself and started to suck on my fingers. then he got a couple more fingerfuls and made me suck it of his fingers. i then pushed him away, out of me, and went down on him, getting even a healthier taste. then i jumped back on top of him and immediately came. he then flipped us over so he was on top and fucked me along while before he came. the perfect way to start off a morning. x-posted Current Mood: happy |
| Thursday, October 23rd, 2003 | |
| 3:49 pm [scooby2doo] |
Intructional Books I'm looking for a good instructional book on ropes, tying, knots, positions and the like. Any recommendations would be appreachated. |
| Saturday, September 6th, 2003 | |
| 11:49 pm [kittensklaws] |
Edited. Does in one know of any good or at least not horribly rotten bdsm porn on the market? Preferably Male Dom - Female sub? Any time I do a search all I get is the pay-site crap. But what I'm really looking for is tapes or DVD's to add to my fiance's vast but very vanilla porn collection. Thank you! Current Mood: tickled Current Music: Non-point |
| Saturday, August 16th, 2003 | |
| 12:55 am [strwbrysmoothy] |
So as my Dominant was writing in a lil' personal journal we keep together...he made a very interesting point which is quite obvious, but the way he said it really struck me for some reason... He wrote: Bow down to the one you serve You're going to get what you deserve These lyrics sort of remind me of our relationship... Of course within this we also have love and respect for each other... When you serve me, in essence you are serving yourself... While you serve me in a way that people typically think of serve, I also serve you, just in a more dominant way, since I am your Master :)... See, he is saying that we both serve each other, but we are completely different people who have different desires, so why not serve each other in the way we both desire, which will in effect, grant our own individualistic needs. When people get together, they don't both have equivlant needs but are treated that way. See, some people don't understand Master and my relationship. BUT, they also don't understand how much my needs are being met, and his are in return. They only see the physical side of things, but fail to dig deeper to the emotional and mental underlining... I just thought he put it in a great way!!! |
| Thursday, July 31st, 2003 | |
| 1:30 am [labstar] |
another topic for discussion This is in regard to Pjammer's post in polyamory But since his initial post also discussed BDSM I thought it was appropriate to post here at well : His basic premise was that Kinky and Poly people are generally unattractive and maladjusted. Here's my theory on that, also crossposted in polyamory :I have another theory on the attractiveness of BDSM and Poly people. This one is from experience. I am kind of unique in the the BDSM world (and poly too I guess) I am young/ thin/attractive/ and socially adept. I am not a geek, a gamer, a goth, or a child of divorced parents or victim of child abuse. In fact most people assume I am vanilla and het and monogomous because I "don't look the type". My theory is that the things that are important in poly or BDSM relationships have not so much to do with your physical appearance and more to do with how you tick, mentally and emotionally. Your kink must be compatable , or your take on relationships (poly) must allow you to date/love the other person. We see a lot of discussion on whether poly people can switch to monogomy or kinky people can date successfully out of the community, but I think it fundamentally is whether you love someone enough to be able to put up with their incompatabilities (religion, kink, diet, poly etc.). All these differences must be negotiated, and if you start with someone of the same relationship style, you start to reduce your differences down to smaller details, like which side of the bed they like to sleep on. Kink and polyamory are both about energy. Does the other person have an energy that is attractive to you? Will they fit well into your poly lifestyle? Will they enjoy submitting or dominating you? In the vanilla world, what often makes someone hot is based on physique. In the kink world, however, what turns me on is their skill as a dominant or a submissive, which generally has nothing to do with physical appearance. In the vanilla world, when someone wants to become more attractive they generally diet. In the kink world, they read some books or attend a few seminars. When I had trouble finding partners before I was involved in kink, I assumed it was because I was unattractive in some way. Now I know that it is because I live in a town which doesn't have enough people which are kink compatable to me, who are also ok with my poly lifestyle. The statistician in me also thinks your sample is skewed. What kind of people have the money and interest to attend a BDSM con? Those that are older with steady jobs. (Younger people often haven't begun attending events because they don't know they are interested yet, or if they do they don't have any money) I don't want people to think I am dissing older people, but in general, middle age is when people put on alot of weight, and start to wrinkle. Hence your selection of kinky people is skewed towards older people and thus your sample is more likely to be unattractive. Second if you looked at a conference for vanilla singles who wanted to meet some people, chances are they would be more unattractive than the general population. The people attending these events are likely older, who haven't had the chance to meet anyone yet, or are already divorced/widowed, because the younger, more attractive, crowd is still meeting people in other places (college, work, bars) or are already paired up. Discussion? |
| Saturday, July 19th, 2003 | |
| 1:13 pm [tacit] |
Feeling peased with myself... I've been working for a while now on a project to make bondage equipment like spreader bars from rods of transparent acrylic. Acrylic rods, which you can get from any industrial plastics supply company, are absolutely beautiful, and easy to work with, and have a unique look I haven't seen in any bondage equipment. Recently, I made a spreader bar out of acrylic rod, and illuminated the ends with small LED lights. The result looks something like this:  There is a set of LEDs in each end. The LEDs that light it up flash in a pattern of different colors, red, green, and blue, and the colors keep cycling continuously. A static image can't really convey how it looks, but the effect is kind of like this:  ![[info]](http://library.vu.edu.pk/cgi-bin/nph-proxy.cgi/000100A/http/web.archive.org/web/20041118234327im_/http:/=2fstat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif){kind=small} bandage and I are bringing it to the next local S&M; play party. :) Current Mood: accomplished |
| Thursday, July 17th, 2003 | |
| 12:24 am [madscience] |
Reb's Quality Spanking Paddles I was looking for ideas for a paddle I'm going to make and I came across this site: Reb's Quality Spanking Paddles. They have a lot of neat paddles, plus some interesting information including a page of spanking games that sound really fun! |
| Thursday, July 10th, 2003 | |
| 11:52 am [woeful_poetess] |
It's almost time again X POSTED This week's Friday Night Sex show is all about fetishes. fet·ish also fet·ich ( P ) n. 1. An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices. 2. An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence: made a fetish of punctuality. 3. Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification. 4. An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation. I need to know what your fetish is, and I need to know why if you can tell me that too. I will read or refer to them directly on the air unless you specify otherwise, so please do if you don't want me to say your nick or anything else related to you. We take dedications of fetishes too... in case you're the shy type can't tell that special girl that you want to wear her underwear ;-) If you don't want to post your reply here - please email it to radioshow@valkyri.org before tomorrow at 9PM EDST. Advice questions are always welcome, please email them to radioshow@valkyri.org Please tune in tomorrow at 10 PM for The Friday Night Sex Show with Caspy and Woe by going to www.emllik.com/radio to plug in with WINAMP and hear about other's fetishes, fantasies (fall over from last week's topic) and hear some great diologue and good humour! Thank you all for your input - it can't be a success without you! |
| 2:00 am [anneifer] |
okay so i don't quite know what i can and can't post on here, being that this is my first time maybe you will all forgive me... anyway, my friend lethalgyrl and i went on a photo adventure, came up with this spanking pick. maybe we need a little work on the seriousness, but i think it's cute.  (p.s. i'm the one on the right doin the spankin'!) Current Mood:  crazyCurrent Music: Lords of Acid - Pussy |
| Wednesday, July 9th, 2003 | |
| 10:53 pm [enfantoublie] |
Pirates of the Carabean =) The movie came out today, and I went and saw it..I won't say anything to spoil the plot, but I just had to share this... Theres this part, where the girl is on the ship, and this big guy slaps her, and he's all "Speak when spoken to!!" all domly and stuff... ^-^ *shcwiinngg!!!* (xposted a few times, sorry )= ) Current Mood: naughty |
| Friday, July 4th, 2003 | |
| 7:50 pm [woeful_poetess] |
Tune in at 10 PM It's that time again everyone! The Friday Night Sex Show with Caspy and Woe... and our theme is Fantasies! We will be happy to answer all your questions and tell everyone about your fantasies so we can all share the wealth and have more fun! For questions and fantasies that you'd like to hear on air please email: radioshow@valkyri.org and should you wish to remain anonymous just specify and we won't say your name. Should you wish to dedicate your fantasy to someone special, perhaps that someone you haven't managed to tell yet - then give us their name and we'll send it out to them. :-) Tune in on both low and high bandwidth frequencies by going to www.emllik.com/radio and clicking on the link to set it up in your winamp. To those that deplore winamp or have Macs, then I believe realadio will also work, though you may have to set it up with the IP yourself. Tune in at 10 PM and bring your imagination! We're almost ready to rock and roll again... Caspy and Woe |
| Tuesday, June 17th, 2003 | |
| 11:35 am [labstar] |
humiliation I always thought that humiliation sounded, well, humiliating, and therefore, not much fun. But as I have explored BDSM, the power exchange aspect to it has begun to interest me more and more. I can get a book that explains which parts of a body are best for impact play, but I haven't seen any instructions on how to do a good humiliation scene. I was hoping someone could give me some pointers or maybe define what types of humilation there are. Thanks! |
| Sunday, June 15th, 2003 | |
| 3:51 pm [mistress_quim] |
Gorgeous Sydney Gal looking for a Home I am looking to move by the 2nd of July. I would like to move to the Newtown/Erskineville/Chippendale/Ultimo/G I am a non-smoking vegan - but I have no problem living with smokers and meat-eaters so long as mutual space is respected. I am extremely out-going, happy, well-adjusted, friendly, sociable and extroverted. I respect people's personal space and need for privacy and alone-time, but I am not a control-freak and compromise easily and would require same from anyone I lived with. I am easy-going to a fault so people's bad habits don't really bug me - so I need up front and honest people who do not play mind-games so that if something I am doing bugs them, they will talk to me about it and not go behind my back or do sneaky things. Basically, people who are friendly, open-minded, respectful and sincere. I believe in rostering housework, communal cooking and sharing. I work-full time as an E-Commerce Production Manager, part-time as a Dominatrix, and I study part-time as well. I am a very artistic and creative person. I am also very honest and reliable. I would require a kink-friendly, pagan-friendly, queer-friendly (I am lesbian-identified) space with people who enjoy good times, and are open-minded. I would prefer to live with a woman or women and with people interested in or involved in the arts. But the woman factor is the bigger one! :) If you know of anywhere, are looking for someone, or know someone who's looking for someone - please email me at this address: harleyquinn69@yahoo.com |
| Tuesday, June 10th, 2003 | |
| 3:54 pm [nycfetphoto] |
Europerv by Demask # 2 Message #2 Back in the UK from Amsterdam!!! Europerve thrown by Demask was great. Because of complaints on the amount of images I am throwing most behind LJ-Cuts so you need to hit read comments to see the full amount. Also this will be one of three postings so you will need to go to my journal to see all of them.  Had a chance to photograph a lot of interesting events as well as people during the night. ( Read more... ) nycfetphoto Current Mood: artistic |
| Friday, May 16th, 2003 | |
| 5:25 pm [labstar] |
A question I was just wondering what you all felt was the distinction between "play partner", "submissive", and "slave"? I recently had some serious issues with one of dominants because he asked me to be his slave. I was really not comfortable taking our relationship to that level, because I was not ready to give up that much control. Do you think submissive or slave imply a 24/7 kind of relationship? I used to think of myself exclusively a bottom, with no real submissive tendancies or interest, but new play partners have been causing me to rethink this classification of myself. I have a problem with both the submissive and slave terms, because they signify to me a person with no opinions who does not make their own decisions. I know this is not always the case, but I was interested to hear if anyone else felt the same way about these terms. |
| Wednesday, May 7th, 2003 | |
| 10:44 pm [aquarius313] |
i'd like to pose a question to you .. in all your years/months .. have you noticed something? .. that it's actually the submissive that's in control. think about it. drop a comment. debate till you're raw, red and spent. we definately need the stimulation. this community is .. sleeping! :D Current Mood: working Current Music: Velvet Acid christ - Serial Killer 101 |
| Saturday, April 26th, 2003 | |
| 10:41 pm [valkyri] |
New community plug... X-Posted everywhere... Greetings. I would like to announce the birth of a brand new community for whip enthusiasts/fetishists. If you are a whip expert, whip maker, competitor, or are just interested in all things whip-like then please drop by and join whip_enthusiast. This community is not sexually oriented, nor is it a place to tell stories about how you whipped your subby, but for serious whip practitioners (or those interested in whips for sport) to discuss techniques, advertise practices, competitions, wares, advice, help, ask and answer questions on all of the above. Looking forward to seeing you there! |
| Friday, March 28th, 2003 | |
| 10:49 pm [nycfetphoto] |
[Error: Irreparable invalid markup ('<img [...] </a>') in entry. Owner must fix manually. Raw contents below.] Sometimes change is a good thing / New people, new places, new ideas. For those who haven't seen my work before, I've been doing fine art photography in NYC for the past 5 years. Most recently I completed an art exhibition in a NYC gallery based around the goth/fetich/alternative nightclub scene. <img src="http://hometown.aol.co.uk/nycscreen/images/alys01.jpg"></a> For the next year, I have moved out to the UK (2 ½ hours outside London) and plan on continuing this work. If there is anyone interested in working with me feel free to drop me a line. <img src="http://members.aol.com/nycscreen/images/a1.jpg"</a> Current Mood: artistic |
| Friday, March 7th, 2003 | |
| 4:47 pm [labstar] |
Poly too? Is it just me, or does almost everyone involved in BDSM also practice polyamory? Is this because BDSM people are open to all alt life choices- paganism, polyamory, body mod etc. Or is it because BDSM lends itself to playing with others (play parties) and because not all people with compatible romantic personalities have compatible kink? Both SO's are bottoms, or into practice's the other isn't into (bloodsports, watersports, etc) Current Mood:  contemplative |
| Monday, March 3rd, 2003 | |
| 2:13 pm [balerinaliz] |
dom&dom; or sub⊂ has anyone here that is very dom been with another person that's very dom? what about a sub that's been with someone else that's very sub? how did it work out? what problems arose? what did you do about those problems? any funny things happen? bad or good experience? |
| Thursday, February 27th, 2003 | |
| 9:43 pm [aquarius313] |
just something random .. i've found that whenever i am angry or frustrated, i need someone to bend me over and spank me. make me hurt as much as they can with their hand or with a whip until i am reduced to tears. it totally relieves the stress. and makes me feel sooo much better. heh. Current Mood: thoughtfulCurrent Music: Rasputina |
| Wednesday, February 26th, 2003 | |
| 11:38 am [ninneviane] |
For those in the UK Birmingham has a new fetish night at Subway City in Birmingham...its name is Compulsion and our first night is on the Friday 21st of March! We are giving away VIP passes for this event with guarentees free entry...see our website at www.clubcompulsion.bravepages.com for details...to apply for your VIP, email clubcompulsion@fetishes.co.uk, stating how many you would like, and please include a postal address we can send them out to! |
| Thursday, February 6th, 2003 | |
| 5:13 pm [balerinaliz] |
Last night my SO and i were trying a couple new ways of tying me up with one very long rope(if i remember correctly from when we bought it, it's like 13 feet or something). the first thing we did was tie my to a backless chair fully clothed. he tied my ankles to the legs of the chair, then brought them up through the D rings on my "bondage pants" (hot topic pants with 3 D rings on each leg), the rope tied up my wrists and came up over my chest and around my neck a couple times. he started to tease me and bite me, pull my hair, pull the rope around my neck to choke me. when he was done teasing me, i had a red rope mark accross the front of my neck. then, we went into my room and he tied me up laying down naked. the rope went around my ankles and around the tops of my legs a couple times. my wrists were tied to my sides and the rope wraped around my neck a few times. he teased me a little more and i gave him head(i wouldn't really say i *gave* him head since he was doing the work). he fingered me and we had amazing sex. it was great. just about 20 minutes ago, my mom and i were talking. i'm wearing a fleece that zips up to a turtle neck due to the dark red rope marks accross my neck. but somehow, my mom could see them and she flipped out about asking if my SO was beating me. then, she was saying how dangerous choking durring sex is because her friends daughter died from being choked by her BF durring sex. Current Mood:  annoyedCurrent Music: Alk3: This is Getting Over You |
| Saturday, February 1st, 2003 | |
| 9:38 pm [xosydneyxo] |
Hi, I just joined. What really turns everyone here on? I'm much more of a sub, and I really love getting spanked. Bend me over your need and slap until my ass is red . . I like it to sting when I sit down. |
| Saturday, January 18th, 2003 | |
| 3:59 pm [tzaelah] |
Spot So there was a session last night with Spot. Spot is into just about anything once, twice if he's not sure... He arrived to the dungeon naked and waited outside in the 15 degree weather with about 4 inches of snow. Mistress Gia and I were in the dressing room putting on the finishing touches to our glamourous selves when we heard Mistress Julia's stern but smooth voice booming through the dungeon, and a bark... another bark... We realized it was Spot, right on time, so Mistress Gia and I began yelling for him to bark louder so we could hear. I walked out into the main room where a slightly built man with brown hair sat on all fours with a squeeky hamburger in his mouth. Mistress Julia made him squeak it for me, which was entertaining in and of itself. Mistress Gia then came into the room and proceeded to ride Spot like a pony around in circles as I chose a collar for him. I chose a nice big posture collar for him, he looked like he needed the support. I strapped the collar on him and we got our coats. See, Spot is an exhibitionist and likes to be in public naked. We took him upstairs and made him walk the length of the snow covered stone bridge that overlooks some apartment buildings. Naked, of course, in Ohio winter. When he got to the end, he was to march back and forth three times while Mistress Gia, Mistress Julia and I cackled like the Witched of Eastwick. When he finally made it back, Mistress Gia took Spot down to the parking lot to March for us while Mistress Julia and I watched from a window above. He encountered some neighbors and a stationary car with someone in it. I laughed until my sides hurt, then Mistress Julia and I retired back to the main dungeon to partake in some wine. Mistress Gia brought Spot back up and we bound him to the St. Andrew's cross. Mistress Julia (who is phenomenal at spanking) began to spank spot while Mistress Gia and I giggled and made fun of his small penis. She swatted him good too, he whimpered like a puppy!! Then it was my turn... I LOVE corporal, but the instrument I chose was too much for him (a wooden paddle) so I settled for a little wimpy riding crop with a leather hand shape on the end. He seemed alright with that, but we had other plans. Mistress Julia and Mistress Gia strapped him down to the table while we made fun of his little penis-looking thing. I pinched his nipples while Mistress Gia and Mistress Julia provided some rather entertaining CBT. It was so little it took a while to get it all tied up, lol. They tortured him a bit until Mistress Julia asked me to get the Violet Wand (my FAVOURITE thing!!!). I plugged it into the wall and shocked Spot a few times in the ribs. Then I tapped his nipple with it while he giggled, so i held it there a while. I ran it down his hairy belly and shocked his balls with it. It was so funny to watch him squirm! Mistress Julia then had her turn while he flopped around on the table like a fish out of water, with me sitting on his legs so he wouldn't kick up (we had to undo one of his feet because the way it was bound was hurting him). After all of this it was reward time. Spot told the Mistresses and I how wonderful woman are and how powerful we are while Mistress Gia stroked his hair. Mistress Julia then proceeded to stand over him and administer a stream of gold onto him while he finished himself. It would have made a beautiful picture indeed. I believe Spot left a very happy (and sore bottomed) man! Then the Mistresses and I went out for a "Mistresses night out" at a strip club and had a blast. So that was our lovely night. Ciao Kittens! |
| Monday, January 6th, 2003 | |
| 11:02 pm [mzwayne] |
switches? (a bit of a rant) Hi! I've been lurking for a little while. I'm a switch having trouble finding community/ common ground- whatever. I belong to some munch groups but they are either dom or sub and no in-between. A lot of the issues they have I don't fully relate to and much of the time they feel sorry for me that it's not as black and white as it is for them. I am really frustrated. Anyone know of any switch-sympathetic resources or communities (LJ or not) I could check out? I already thought I was alienated for being bi- now I come to find that switches are looked at sideways. Sheesh, I'm just a person. You'd think queers and kinky people would be more accepting since they themselves are discriminated against, but I have experienced the opposite and I'm feeling pretty isolated and lonely about it. End rant. Current Mood:  disappointedCurrent Music: Low-Cracker-Kerosene Hat |
| Sunday, January 5th, 2003 | |
| 1:51 am [laureladams] |
Wow! Young Crowd I was surprised to see the poll numbers. I guess when I was under age 19 I was still figuring out sex. BDSM really hadn't crossed my palate yet. Not that I wasn't always submissive, but I had no idea how to categorize it, or really box it up. |
| Thursday, January 2nd, 2003 | |
| 1:53 am [balerinaliz] |
I need some tips for complete female dominance. naturally, i'm very submissive, but want some tips/ideas on what to do when i have him in my control. thanks:oD |
| Monday, December 30th, 2002 | |
| 6:30 pm [girlsonfilm] |
adult site you might be interested in...  Hello BDSM fans! I wanted to let you have a peek at my new site, www.con-tour.com. Con-tour.com is a kinky online community with a variety of cool stuff. eCards, reviews, sex articles, galleries, videos, and more! Our goal is to offer real sexuality, nothing is faked. Everyone is playing with their boyfriend, husband, or regular partner(s). There is no canned content, no pop-up ads, no blind links. Please, stop by for a visit. Alexi |
| Friday, December 20th, 2002 | |
| 11:07 pm [ironyisfun] |
love those crucifix pictures .... |
| Monday, December 16th, 2002 | |
| 4:14 pm [enfantoublie] |
I hope this is appropriate - if its not, let me know and I'll delete it This is, quite frankly, a shameful plug. I made a new spanking community, for online roleplayers...it's at dungeonspanking. The name's kind of a takeoff of Dungeons and Dragons, only its Dungeons and Spanking :). If anyone's interested, go for it. :) Hope I'll see you there. Current Mood: accomplished |