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bdsm rakshanda | |
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Hello, I just joined. You can't tell it by my current icon, but I am a bi woman who is a switch (mostly sub, tho). My issue is that my BF is a switch and I have some difficulty giving him what he needs if he is in a submissive mood (more often lately) and I am not in a dominant mood.
I have tried to get ideas from books and web sites by femmedommes (sp?) but they are not what I am looking for. They seem to go for the whole "bitch goddess" deal and that is not me. Their clients are into much heavier stuff than we are.
What he likes: teasing and denial, dirty talk, watching me modeling/posng/strutting/dancing, mild humiliation, spanking, tight bondage. He would like me to "make" him do things (things he wants to do anyway - hehe).
Part of the problem is that I have depression and low self-esteem and I am always second-guessing myself. If I try something that doesn’t work out, I kick myself over it and lose any confidence I had. Also, we have been together for 15 years and it’s really tough to find something novel. Any recommendations for web sites that can help me with scene ideas?
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bdsm vampyric_lyric | |
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Hello everyone. I've just joined the community, so I figured I'd start out like most other people and give a little bit of background. I'm a female bisexual Domme/pseudo-Switch. I've been in a couple D/s relationships and had a fairly wide variety of experiences. For the past two and a half years, I've been in a relationship with a boy I love very much. Alright, enough background. My dilema is this: At the start our relationship, I started slowly introducing my partner to D/s play, and training him to be a sub. This went well for about a year; our play was never as intense as I would have liked, but I love him and would never force him to do anything he wasn't comfortable with. However, over the past year, he started encouraging me to be a switch. I gave it a shot, and I can enjoy it when I'm in the right mindset, but that doesn't happen as much as he wants it to. I find that he's submitting to me less and less and really trying to persuade me to submit to him more and more. When I'm in the right mood for it, I do enjoy our play sessions with him as the top, although never as much as I enjoyed being the Dominant one. How do I go about telling him this, and what do I do if he won't back down? I hate that our play sessions are so often becoming a power struggle. If anyone has any suggestions, or has ever been in a similar situation, I'd love the input. Thanks!
Current Mood: frustrated Current Music: Cradle of Filth- Bestial Lust
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bdsm sunrising86 | |
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Hi there, I'm new to the lifestyle. I know that it takes time to learn things properly, so I'm asking questions...but first, let me introduce myself. Currently, I identify as a female submissive. I've had this interest for years, but only acted for it on the first time last fall. I have had two masters in the last six months, which I know is not long. The first was not safe. I unwittingly followed his every whim, without any thought of my safety. After all, I was the sub, right? I had no safeword, no way to tap out, no limits. Looking back, it scares me shitless to think of what could have happened. My current master is interested in D/s, and not a lot of pain (thank god), but we have a solid agreement on safety. I'm enjoying being his toy very, very much. But my mind often wanders. Not only to being Dominant, but to being with women also. So, I'm beginning to see myself as a switch. And helpful hints would be greatly appreciated. Books or experience? I would greatly appreciate any help Y'all/y'all can give me.
Current Mood: curious
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