Jonathan Capehart writes in Sunday's Washington Post:
"Under normal circumstances, all of this [Obama's mini health care benefits memo he signed last week for the gay partners of federal employees] would have been big news in the push for gay and lesbian civil rights. Instead, it has been derided as too little, too late. As if any of this would have happened with Sen. John McCain (R-Ariz.) in the White House. I'm all for holding an ally's feet to the fire. But to not recognize and celebrate victories, no matter how "small," is maddeningly shortsighted in the long march to full equality.
"If gays and lesbians want big victories, such as the repeal of DOMA and the "don't ask don't tell" policy, they should focus their fire where it belongs: on Congress. Each bill will take 218 votes in the House and 60 in the Senate to reach the president's desk, and the votes aren't there yet. Saying no one is going to hand gay men and lesbians their rights, Berry told me, "We have to get out there and fight and get those votes." That won't be easy. But if last week's announcement is a sign that Obama will be vocal, persistent and public in his support, the fight can be won."
It's not. Last week also brought the announcement that we are
akin to incest and pedophilia.
Under normal circumstances, a Democratic president in the year 2009, who was himself the product of a forbidden union in some parts of the country, who won in a landslide, who had a great approval rating, whose party had control over the House and the Senate, wouldn't slowly-slowly start backing away from his commitments to a minority, as if that minority were somehow a diseased pariah. Under normal circumstances, that president wouldn't have compared that minority to
incest and pedophilia. Under normal circumstances, he wouldn't defend a law that he'd called abhorrent, that he said he'd help repeal. Under normal circumstances, he'd have at least issued a stop-loss order to cease the
two-discharges a day that are ruining the lives of patriotic gay service members. (
Obama just defended Don't Ask Don't Tell in court too: "The bar on gays serving openly is 'rationally related to the government's legitimate interest in military discipline and cohesion.' ")
Yes, under normal circumstances, if you give me a quarter, I'll say thank you. But if you kick me in the balls and then
give me a quarter, don't expect a goodnight kiss.
I know Jonathan and like Jonathan, but you're witnessing the problem with our community's leadership, first hand. They, and so many of us, have been beaten down for so long that we expect the beatings. Pain and disappointment have become the new normal. We expect to be treated like second-class citizens. We expect to be slapped in the face and knifed in the back by our friends because, we tell ourselves, the other guy is even worse.
And like the good beaten spouse, we always come back for more because it's all we know, and at least it's something.
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