January 6th, 2009, by JP
First, I’ll thank Craig for letting me guest post on the venerable MTPolitics.
The 61st Montana Legislature hadn’t even convened before the hyperventilating started by some of the regulars over at Left in the West.
They want to make the Government force you to stay married. Even if–say–your spouse used your family’s entire life savings to fuel his/her gambling or drug addition and you don’t have any money left to feed your children–even if your spouse is cheating on you or even beating on you, you can’t get a divorce.
No, you still have to go through a government mandated counseling period and a cooling off period for a couple of years (whereby the spouse can still hit your kids, drain your bank-account, kill your pets, etc.)
Sounds horrible, right? I’d have to agree with poster Montana Cowgirl that this would be atrocious legislation worthy of fighting against. When I went to the supporting links for the two suspect pieces of legislation [here and here] I noticed they were still in bill draft (which means Cowgirl had no actual legislation on which to base her attack) – so I looked around to see what I could find about similar attempts elsewhere.
Wikipedia’s accuracy notwithstanding, when I looked into ‘covenant marriages’ I found a concise summary. I also found data on the three states that currently offer covenant marriages as well as one version of the ‘boilerplate’ legislation so we can see what proponents want in their dream bill.
The glaring omission in the breathless hyperbole in the aforementioned post and majority of subsequent comments is this. Covenant marriage is optional. Nobody is forced into this matrimonial bond. Even if a couple were to make this commitment, they could change their mind and get divorced elsewhere – and nowhere could I find evidence that the legislation prevented abused spouses from getting out of that tragic (and often deadly) situation.
Now, before you make the leap and assume I support legislation like this – I’ll make this perfectly clear. I am devout in my faith, but what that is and how I practice it is my business. If you want to know more about it, I’ll likely share – but I’m not going to wear it on my sleeve because I know there are numerous ways to have faith (or for some, not have faith). To each, their own I guess.
Marriage is what bwings us togever er, I mean, I consider marriage to be a religious construct. In the eyes of the government, I personally believe it should be a lawfully recognized civil union between two consenting adults and blind to the parallel religious overtones. As indicated by some of the proponents of covenant marriage, it is a deeply religious movement of the evangelical judeo-christians – and that’s fine. Believe whatever you want. Legislating it, however, lends legitimacy to claims of a violation of the First Amendment to the U.S. Constitution specifically the “or prohibiting the free exercise thereof” part. If I don’t believe the same way these proponents at The Covenant Marriage Movement, I’m free to do so – and it is a violation of my rights to force me otherwise.
The road to Hell is paved with good intentions, and while I’m all for strong marriages – and those who choose to try to salvage a rocky one with some of the methods suggested by the covenant folks – more power to you. However, it would be wise to take a good strong look at the U.S. Constitution before one starts drafting legislation (ANY legislation, I might add). I can only hope that our current crop of legislators do exactly that.
I’ll withhold judgment on these particular bills until the drafts are actually written (unlike some others ahem). I would encourage others to do the same and to avoid creating bogeymen. Attack the basis of the legislation, not some hyperbolic worse-than-worst-case scenario. Especially if it’s optional.
Just one man’s opinion.
Note: the opinion expressed in this post does not necessarily reflect the views of the owner of this blog, but I’ll bet I’m not too far afield. If I am, he’ll let me know in the comments. Thanks for the guest mic, Craig.
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