Saturday night when we pulled off the by-pass highway onto that so-familiar road I've driven hundreds of times, I couldn't help remembering. For me the long trip was almost over, but for little Josie in the back seat, that last hour still seemed a long way.
Back when Nathan and I were dating, that road seemed to stretch out eternally before me-- the distance between Nathan's house and mine. I was always running to him or him to me. That road was the gap we were always trying to close. I would speed, of course, but I could never get there fast enough. The days were much like the miles--a gap to be closed until we no longer had to live apart. Now, all of a sudden, it's been fifteen years, and here I am driving that familiar road and coming home again.
We never intended to leave. When Nathan was in school and I was working, we thought we would make a smooth transition from my career to his. He would graduate and find a job nearby. I would resign and stay home with the kids. We were happy here. We were going to stay. But that didn't happen. He couldn't find a job nearby that paid near enough. He found a great job out of state, and we went. It happened really fast. We just closed our eyes and leaped. That job led to another, which led to another, which let to another, until we had been in Montana for four years, had a beautiful home and friends that we loved. We were happy. We were pretty sure we were never coming home.
The Lord took some pretty drastic measures to get us here. The Sunday after Nathan lost his job, Traci Ronneberg spoke in our branch. Her topic was adversity. I can't tell you who she was quoting or the exact words, but she said something about like this: "If we are truly in touch with the Lord and trust him completely, we would be grateful for our trials because they are opportunities for the Lord to bless us." I remember thinking our life had been so good. How was it possible that this would turn out to be a blessing and not just another trial to be endured? We had worked so hard to get to where we were. Our home wasn't just a home to us; it was two years of hard work and lots of love. It was our first real home-- a house that was ours. It was hard t think if leaving it-- especially if there was no one to buy it and move into it.
Now we are back in Nathan's home town. Both of our boys were born while we lived here. I taught here at the high school. We know nearly everyone in the ward and a fairly large number of people in the community. Still, it's been a transition. Nathan seems to be happier than he was in Utah. Our kids are enjoying some much-needed freedom outside. Little Josie is so happy to be able to roam around in a real yard. We've planted the garden and the boys mowed the lawn. Soon we'll be working on this little house-- the one we left behind when we moved.
Maybe this has all been a test of humility. It is going to be hard adjusting from our beautiful, newly remodeled 2700 sq ft home to a 14 x 70 single wide. But what we lack in space inside, we make up for outside. It is so nice to finally be out of town. Last night my sister-in-law and I walked five miles and didn't meet another soul. Ethan spends half the day on the four-wheeler, which had been sitting idly in our yard for months. Mazie has been at play nonstop with her cousins, and so far is delighted. Dylan, too, is enjoying being home. He remembers living here. He's glad to have his dog back. Probably the only person for which this might be a trial is me. I'm glad to be closer to my mom. I'm glad my husband is finally happy.
It's been an important lesson for me. When Nathan was unemployed, we were sitting in Sacrament meeting one Sunday, and we sang "We Thank Thee O God for A Prophet" as the rest hymn. These words stood out to me, "We doubt not the Lord nor his goodness; We've proved him in days that are passed." This whole process has taught me that the Lord will be good to us when we are faithful to Him. We wondered why he wasn't answering our prayers. We wondered why some of our trials weren't resolved more quickly when we had done all we could to resolve them. If he had answered our prayers then, we wouldn't be here now. I've wondered many times if this was something Nathan and I both needed, but we didn't know we needed. I guess I've learned that the Lord knows us better than we know ourselves.
BUT, WAIT!
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