While suffering through our first bout of Covid this May, I saw a cat rescue's photo of a cream-colored kitten and began babbling to Mike, "LOOK at her! Oh my goodness! If she were mine, I'd hold her on my shoulder all day long! I'd call her 'Cubby' and just cuddle her all her day!" She was blind in one eye and missing the other. I wanted her as soon as I saw her. I had really actually thought, "That's my cat" as soon as I saw her, but I said nothing to Mike about wanting to apply to adopt her. We hadn't even discussed getting another cat in the soon-to-be-two-years since Stuffed's death. Having a new one somehow didn't even seem like a possibility.
A month passed and I hadn't been able to stop thinking about this fuzzy little soul. Was she scared? Was she lonely? Did people cuddle her? She was blind: Was she safe? She was just a baby! On the morning of June 23rd, I woke from a dream in which we'd adopted Cubby. (She was "Cubby" to me from the start; The rescue called her something else.) The plot of the dream was lost to me upon waking, but Cubby had been ours. This was the two-year anniversary of Stuffed's death, and I took it as a sign that we were meant to go for it. More than a month had passed since I'd seen the rescue's last update on her, so it seemed likely that she'd already been adopted, but I emailed the group anyway to tell them we wanted her. And I took it on faith that we would somehow be the ones to get her, just like in my dream, and without waiting to hear otherwise, I ordered two aqua gingham collars--one kitten-size and one for her to grow into--a red heart-shape name tag and a special needs tag that stated she was blind, I began reading articles and a couple books about taking care of blind cats, and I ordered a picture of her to keep beside Stuffed's on the table between Mike's and my chairs. I went ahead and paid the adoption fee and bought kitten food and a few catnip mice to start off her toy collection here. And I waited to hear back from the rescue. And waited. And waited. I babbled even more feverishly to Mike about this kitten, I prayed about it, I texted him about it while he was at work, I wrote in my journal about it, I willed an email to come or the phone to ring and waited some more. At one point while Mike listened and looked at me pityingly, I started crying halfway through saying, "It's okay, I know I'm not going to be the one who gets her," surprising even myself with how gutted I felt at the thought. But almost simultaneously, I would think, "How could this NOT be my cat??? Look at her!" It was every bit as odd as it seems.
The rescue didn't list a phone number, so I emailed twice more the next week but still got no response. I dreamed of Cubby a second time while waiting to hear back, however: In the dream, we had adopted her and I was carrying her into the apartment, but she peed on my shoulder before I could get her over to the litter box and Mike and I were laughing about it. 'Still no word from the rescue, though, and in desperation, I decided to write them a letter and to send it via Overnight Delivery. In three pink legal pad pages, I pleaded my case for our adopting this kitten, feeling decidedly desperate but compelled to do so, and I sealed the letter with a drawing of Cubby. Despite being twenty-seven dollars poorer after paying the next-day-delivery postage and uncharacteristically late for work to boot, I felt a sense of peace as I left the post office: Whatever was meant to happen would happen. I had fought to be gifted with her, but the rescue would obviously choose the person they deemed best for her, and if all I wanted was what was best for her, then it simply followed that whatever they decided was fine. Blind baby Cubby would be in good hands.
On my day off the next day, a woman from the rescue group called and said she'd just received my letter and "I'm so sorry--I thought you knew the cat was yours?!" She had thought someone else from the rescue had already contacted me, and those volunteers all thought that she had. I was already crying while she explained this and mouthed to Mike, "We got her!" so he wouldn't think they were tears of disappointment. The woman explained that the group had received so much interest in this kitten and other people had applied for her but that they had "been extra picky" and had been waiting to find the right person and home for her. After a frantic week of blind-kitten-proofing the apartment--something I'd read online had recommended covering corners with bubble-wrap so a blind cat could explore and form a mental map of a space without walking into anything sharp-edged in the process, so soon enough, I had taped bubble-wrap around all our chair legs, table legs, wall corners, etc.--and buying new beds and kitten-specific things like a stuffed cat that contained both a heating pack and a battery-operated heartbeat, Mike and I made the eighty-mile trip to collect Cubby. At this point, we had seen a video of her and a few more photos, so we were stunned to see how much smaller she appeared in-person. 'Not even two pounds yet, she kept her eye squinched shut but snuggled onto our chests and shoulders as we took turns holding her. 'Love, love, love. ♥
So began a summer of what a coworker would affectionately refer to as "Cubby Chaos." Cubby would sit so still and patiently as I wiped her eye and missing eye area every morning, she would gobble down her food, and then: Off to the races! My memory of July is a haze of blearily trying to get Cubby onto a sleep schedule--"Now you know what it's like having a newborn," Mom remarked after one of my been-awake-since-4 a.m. reports--snuggling her on my shoulder and chest--she would lick my face and pat-pat-pat at it with her warm little paw pads as if reading it in kitten Braille--repeatedly running to reach her as she attempted to walk across the air between the arm of Mike's recliner to the arm of my wing chair like Wile E. Coyote nonchalantly stepping off a cliff, weighing her daily to make sure she was gaining weight--and she was! She went from not-quite-two-pounds to almost-five this summer--rescuing her from the tops of chair-backs, bookshelves, and cat trees--she could climb up but couldn't get back down, whether because she was blind and missing the depth perception or just because she was young and little and hadn't yet figured it out, I don't know--laughing as she chased her pink ball around the apartment--we'd hear its jingle and turn to see her marching past with it in her mouth--and texting updates back and forth with Mike. We had rearranged our work schedules before adopting her so that one of us would always be home with her, at least until she was older and able to be alone safely. Now that the sleep-deprivation and constant worrying have passed, I look at the pictures and reread the texts we sent each other this summer and laugh. We only ever knew Stuffed as an adult cat, so this little kitten's energy and antics were eye-opening for us.
And our favorite, a live-action shot from my attempted afternoon nap with her in bed beside me:
By mid-September, Cubby had settled down some. She would either sleep through the night in bed with us or stay out of trouble if she moved to one of her beds in the living room. Always a good eater, she weighed almost three pounds more than she had when we'd adopted her. She was still smaller than she would have been had she had a better start in life--she was found in a tree stump when only a few weeks old after her mother had been hit by a car, and she'd been bottle-fed after that--but she had noticeably more heft to her now when we picked her up and looked more like a tiny cat than a very young kitten. She seemed more than comfortable in her new home and had a bunch of favorite spots and daily routines now. She continued to chase her pink ball and carry both it and a rainbow-striped long-tailed mouse around in her mouth as she ran around. She wrestled a stuffed Grumpy Cat and cuddled up with "Mama Cat," her heartbeat cat, during naps. Her barely-audible meow that we'd gotten used to was now a baby-dinosaur-squawking kind of sound as she got more practiced at using her voice. Her Siamese-mix coloring was coming in darker, so her ears were standing out more against her cream-colored fur, making her even more adorable. As I texted Mom, it was like I had Holly Hobbie's cat. :)
Cubby's spaying was scheduled for mid-October, and the last weekend of September, she began showing signs that we learned were possibly of her being in heat for the first time: Lethargy, lack of appetite, decreased playfulness, and not wanting to be cuddled. She drank but didn't eat either Friday or Saturday, and Sunday October 2nd, we took her to an emergency vet since I figured she might need IV fluids for nutrition soon if she didn't get her appetite back. After the initial exam, the vet's assistant told us we could wait in the waiting room while more tests were run or wait outside in our car, so we chose the latter, and within about ten minutes, the vet called to say that she was sorry and knew this wasn't what I was expecting to hear but that it was time to make some hard decisions about Cubby. Cubby had FIP, which the vet described to us as a "silent killer" kind of illness that typically lies dormant until it's almost progressed to its fatal end. She and one of the assistants had both had a hard time finding Cubby's heartbeat, and the ultrasound had shown fluid already built-up in both her abdominal cavity and around her heart. She couldn't tell us what to do, she said, but there was nothing she could do for Cubby. She continued to talk, but I was already sobbing and told her I was sorry but that I couldn't talk and was passing the phone to Mike. I heard her say, "I understand, and I'm so sorry" before Mike stepped out of the car with my phone. While he walked around the parking lot talking with her, I cried like I have rarely cried in my forty-five years, feeling literally blindsided, and the memory of the sound of my voice as I sat slumped over in the front seat repeatedly howling, "No, nooooooooooooo" remains one of the most disturbing memories of all of this for me.
The assistants and vets who helped us and Cubby that day had all mentioned at various points that Cubby was "really cute" and "very sweet." The main vet was crying with me and Mike while she prepared to put Cubby to sleep. "Poor baby," she murmured to her as she administered the final drug. Mike and I talked to her as she passed, Mike sitting beside her while I supported her little body as the drug took hold. She was still smiling even as she died.
We buried Cubby by dear Stuffed in Mike's mom's backyard, with her blankie, her pink ball, her other favorite toys, and a note, and covered her with Baby's Breath and a riot of roses in both summer and fall colors to reflect the two seasons we got to share with her. It was almost 10 p.m. when we finished in the yard, working by the garage lights and motion-sensor lights. When I told Mike that I was glad Stuffed was near Cubby, he said, "Yes. He can keep an eye on her," and I started crying again. I had bought the baby Cubby figurine below a month before she died, intending it to be one of my Christmas presents from Mike, but he gave it to me after we came home from burying her. With that perfect smile on her face and the pudgy kitten body to go with it, there she is with beautiful Stuffed, utterly oblivious to the "Cubby chaos" she's created. :) O' my cub! My heart, my heart. . . .
2022 turns to 2023, then, with eternal gratitude for the gift of our ever-smiling Cubby. What else is there to do now, after all, but be thankful for her, hold her in our hearts, and let her teach us how to feel our way forward?