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Hey all! Looks like there hasn't been an entry in here in a while, so tada! An entry! Okay, so it's a newbie post merely introducing myself. Anywho, I'm Ryn, nice to meet you all. I'm 19, and have been mostly single for the past year. Well, I had a boyfriend for one month, got a little more than innocently (but not sexually) involved with a married man, and then I recently had a strictly physical relationship with a guy from theatre that ended before anything serious actually happened. Because of that relationship, I have a question, but first a little background: I've always been surrounded by male friends, but never had a lot of boyfriends. I always thought it was because I was chubby or plain looking. The boyfriends I did have would tell me I was gorgeous, that they didn't deserve me, and I never believed them. Shit, I'm sounding full of myself, but that's not it, really. I do have a point to this. So, I've been seeing myself in a different light lately, and I think it's the right one. Men are attracted to me by the strange combination of confidence and innocent shyness that I exude. And I have been told by many men that I am intimidating, though I never saw myself that way. I don't even know what I look like anymore. I recently lost 20 lbs and didn't recognize myself twice yesterday. Once in a mirror, once in a photograph taken 2 days ago that happened to be turned upside down so I didn't recognize my face... Okay, now I'm just rambling. Anywho, I have a question. Because I always saw myself as chubby and unattractive, I always repressed my sexuality as a young teen. I would wear clothes to hide my curves... I turned down guys who asked me out because I thought I wasn't good enough for them. I didn't get my first kiss until I was 16. So since I was a late bloomer, I've only voluntarily slept with 1 guy, a boyfriend I had for 2 years. There was another guy I had sex with, but we were both drunk, and I really don't count that since I barely remember it. My problem is that I just can't have random sex. It's not like I want to go out and have one-night stands around town, but if I meet a guy I am attracted to, why can't I just go with the attraction? I think most of this is a psychological thing, but there is one physical thing that may attribute to my sexual reluctance. Of course, this may not be the right community for going that deep into my sex life, lol. If anyone wants to know, and if the mod gives the okay, I'll go into that too. Can anyone offer any suggestions? I like being a flirt, being a tease, but my being a tease didn't come about because it was something I wanted to do. It's because of the insecurities I have. (But I figure I'll enjoy doing it while it's fun...)
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