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The many faces of Bristol |
I know I will take some heat for bringing up this topic, but since when did I ever let THAT stop me?
There is no longer any hiding the fact that Bristol has had some very obvious cosmetic surgery done, and since she flaunted her new look last night at the White House Correspondents Dinner, I believe that now is reasonable time to address it.
Look it is one thing to get a glaring flaw fixed, or to straighten out a broken nose, or even for a flat chested woman to want to get SOMETHING she can put into a bathing suit top. I am certainly not going to be judgemental about a woman's right to choose, even if that choice is a little plastic surgery
But the amount that Bristol has obviously had done seems to me an indication of a problem far more troubling than a simple dissatisfaction with a facial flaw.
One of the reasons that women, especially very young women, get a large amount of plastic surgery done is because they suffer from BDD, or
Body Dysmorphic Disorder. This can occur for a
variety of reasons, including Brain chemical differences, Structural brain differences, Genes, or impact from their Environment (Such as constantly being compared to a particularly attractive relative or suffering teasing by friends or family.)
According to Mercede, Bristol was ALWAYS very insecure, and was indeed the victim of teasing from her family and friends. However since her mother seems fixated on her appearance as well, genetics could also be a factor.
Add to that the fact that Bristol seems to now want to fit in with the Hollywood set, and it is fairly easy to see how small fixations on perceived imperfections can suddenly become all consuming. And once you fix one thing you hate about yourself, why stop there?
I am absolutely NOT writing this to pick on Bristol. In fact when it comes to this topic I feel very badly for her.
I was in a long term relationship with a woman who suffered from BDD and I can tell you first hand that it can be debilitating and all consuming. The constant diets, the insecurities, and the self loathing, make it virtually impossible to have a healthy relationship with somebody like this. Believe me I tried for fifteen years.
Ultimately they will question why you love them, and doubt that you do, because they themselves cannot find reason to love themselves. Everything is externalized and they believe if only they could change themselves physically they would finally achieve happiness. And deserve to be loved.
Personally I hope that someday Bristol gets some therapeutic help and learns to love herself for WHO she is, and not WHAT she looks like. Because youth and beauty are only temporary, but kindness and compassion will make you a gorgeous person on the inside for a lifetime.
P.S. And before the Palin-bots start running over here blaming US for driving her to get the surgery due to our discussion about her weight on DWTS, let me point out we were talking about a potential pregnancy, NOT a normal weight gain. And besides THAT would certainly not explain the chin implant now would it?